I’m no saint. I’m not a bleeding-heart left-wing liberal. I don’t help everyone who asks for help. I do, however, have a soft spot for the homeless.
Do you listen when they ask for spare change? Do you acknowledge them as people? Do you give anything? Do you ever have a conversation?
Some of the most interesting conversations I have had have been with homeless individuals.
I don’t always give, but I almost always establish eye contact and respond in some way. I don’t always give – I may not actually have any change, or my heart may not be in the right place at the time. Yet, sometimes I give, and when I do, I try to have at least a moment of connection with the person. In some cases, I’ll stop to have a conversation.
Today, a young man near Bay and Bloor struck me as different, and I am very glad to have helped him a bit and to have taken a few moments of my life to speak with him. When I passed by him for the first time, I made eye contact and told him, “Sorry, don’t have any change.” Usually, I either get a nod, a “no probs”, or the person just dismisses me by looking away and moving on to the next person. This young man was different. He looked away with a mixture of resignation and sorrow.
Whether it was God who moved my heart – I am Christian, after all – or simply compassion for another soul truly in need, I felt that I needed to help this young man with at least a little of my money and my time.
After returning a book at the library further down the street, I double-backed to find the young man. He was still there. I walked over to him, told him with a smile , “I told you earlier that I don’t have any change, and I really don’t, but it is New Year’s… ” and put a decent paper bill in his cup.
He positively lit up, got up and walked a short distance with me. As often happens with conversations with those who long for human contact and respect, he was very open with me.
“I’m not going to buy alcohol with this. I don’t drink. I do a little pot, but that’s it. It’s my own fault that I’m in this situation. Thank you. I know there really are good people.”
Someone crossing the street called to him in a friendly manner , “Hey buddy, how are you today?” “I’m good! Thank you!” He returned his attention to me. “Her name is Angel. It really is.” I could hear in his voice that he had a lot of respect for the lady.
We parted ways not long after. I wanted to say something to encourage him – I saw a good heart in him, and I truly believe he can get himself back on his own feet. All I had time for was just a parting moment to honestly wish him a happy new year.
I am happy to have helped him, if only for a day materially. I can only hope that by lifting his spirits for a little while that it may help him keep on his journey away from despair and towards the better life that I sense he hopes for. I know for sure that I too have benefited from this shared moment.
Can you spare a dime? More importantly, can you spare a moment of your time – of your life – for another human being in need? Try it, and if your heart is in the right place, I believe you will find that you both benefit from it.